I admit it, I never wanted or thought I'd be a stay at home mom. In all reality, there was a time when I thought a life with just the hubs and I was all I wanted. If we did have kids, I always thought they'd be in daycare while I was working.
While there is no right or wrong in the discussion of which is better - a working mom or stay at home mom - I found it super interesting to read these 51 Universal Truths for being successful, from journalist Julie Bort, and found that they apply to both worlds.
Here are just a few of my favorites:
- If you can't be passionate about the work itself, be passionate about the reason you do it.
For me, there are days I'm not passionate about staying home, but seeing our girls grow and develop manners, personalities, their imagination makes it worth it. I'm choosing to stay home because my husband and I feel it's more valuable and the best environment for them.
- If you truly believe in what you're doing and you have a strong vision for the outcome and the basic steps to get there, believe in yourself and don't quit, even if (especially if), the world is telling you you're crazy.
No matter what adventure you are on, you need to believe in what you are doing. That belief comes through when you're talking to others, co-workers, superiors, friends, family, etc. and they'll do whatever they can to help because they can sense and feel your passion. If you don't believe in what you're doing, it may be worth asking yourself if you're doing what you were destined to do.
- Embrace diversity. The best way to compensate for your own weaknesses is to pick teammates who have different strengths.
I'm very much type A...I pick up and put toys away in the same spot at least 2-3 times a day and have a schedule I like to keep them on. My husband, however, is much more flexible. It's good for me to see (and have him tell me) that it's ok if toys don't always get put away in the same spot every night just like he makes sure naptimes aren't missed.
In the working world, I was very lucky to be on some good teams. Teams where some were very outgoing and great on the fly when at meetings, while some were more suited for the office and ensuring phones and visitors were treated with respect.
We all need a little balance in our world and if you were honest with yourself, you wouldn't always want to be working with, or around, someone who was just like you all the time.
- Grow your network. Make an effort to meet new people and to keep in contact with those you know.
I think this is a little more true as a homemaker. Your brain seriously goes to mush when you're home and using the bathroom in peace really just makes your mind race thinking about what your precious little one is getting into. We all need a little help from our friends and there's a comfort in knowing you aren't in this alone, someone has been there before, and hearing how they handled it can provide a crazy amount of relief that you aren't failing.
I really think all of the universal truths shared in this article are spot on. It was almost as if reading each truth, I was reminded of a work or home-life situation it applied to. I think they were also helpful to shed a little perspective as to how 2016 ended and what I needed to be reminded of to help 2017 be a success!