My first two part blog! How exciting! Maybe more for me :-)
So I've been wanting to test this out for a while, but let's first start at the beginning. This may be hard to believe, but I suck at communicating. At least communicating in the sense of sharing my feelings with my husband. If something upsets me, I tend to either bury it somewhere in my mind bank to use when it's full and I just explode or I, well, actually no. That's pretty much what I do. This is one of the hubs wants / needs in our relationship. He just wants me to share when something upsets me. It drives him nuts when I don't and I feel so bad because I know it's something I want to change, but it's so hard.
On the flip side, when he asks what one of my wants / needs are, I'll tell him I just want to feel important. When he asks how can he do that, my answer is usually, almost all the time, "I don't know, it's just a feeling that I need." For a person who is a fixer, the hubby, this doesn't sit well with him. He'll try to do things that he thinks make me feel important, but it's not what I need and usually go unnoticed by me. And yes, I'm fully aware I hit the jackpot having a husband who puts up with me in this aspect.
But I feel like I'm not alone in this - or at least I hope I'm not. I don't want to have to ask him to take out the garbage when it's full, or to put dishes away that have been sitting there clean for a few days, or to clean his side of the sink. I just want him to do it without me telling him it's driving me crazy. I want him to want to do it too. Women's minds are crazy I realize as I'm writing this.
This lack of communication cycle brings me to my blog post today. I don't know what it was that made me think of it, but I realized that communicating with StitchFix is like communicating with my husband (or at least I'm hoping to prove this right). For those of you not familiar with StitchFix, it's a monthly service where a stylist will send you 5 pieces of clothing. You fill out an online quiz to help them get to know your style. You can add a Pinterest board to your profile too and pin items you see that you want. Each month you are also able to add a note to help your stylist send you jackpot items.
So last month, my note was very much like I communicate now. I was super generic and instead of being specific about what I was looking for, wanted the stylist to just send me tops she "knew" I'd love. When my box came, while the tops were nice, I sent them all back. It was a FAIL. In reality, how could I expect her to know what I was looking for if I wasn't willing to tell her exactly what I was wanting.
This month I was super specific. I told my stylist exactly what I was looking for (brand, type, color) and made sure I had pictures pinned for her to refer to when getting ready to send me my box. It's set to arrive this week and I have a feeling I know how part 2 is going to go...stay tuned!